Session 1 Summary - The Stirring

Thanks again for showing up so openly and honestly in our session. You did some important work today—not just exploring what’s happening in your business, but pulling back the curtain on a deeper tension that’s been quietly influencing your mood, confidence, and energy.

Here’s a quick recap of what we uncovered:

What We Noticed

  • Your emotions are heavily tied to business performance. When sales dip, your mood follows. But it’s not just about numbers—there’s a deeper undercurrent.

  • Self-deprecating humor and justifying your success (or lifestyle) seem to stem from an old internal narrative: that success should be modest, frugal, and “earned” in a certain way.

  • You carry guilt—not only around how much you’re contributing financially, but also in terms of what you’re contributing to your relationship and household.

  • There’s a recurring internal conflict between being perceived as successful and staying “humble”—and it’s creating friction in how you show up, how you accept compliments, and how you relate to others (especially Margaret).

What May Be Emerging

There’s a new identity forming—one that’s seeking:

  • Freedom from inherited scripts about what it means to be worthy, successful, or a good partner

  • Clarity on your unique value in your relationship that isn’t solely tied to revenue

  • Emotional balance and margin, regardless of monthly sales cycles

  • A version of success that lets you be fully you—flip flops, Louis sunglasses, Rover and all—without having to explain it away

You’re not just working on the business—you’re working on the business owner. And that’s the real growth edge right now.

Suggested Reflection Before Our Next Session

Over the next week or two, I’d love for you to reflect on and jot down your thoughts on the following:

  1. What value do I bring to our household and relationship that has nothing to do with income?

  2. What are 3 things I could do consistently that would increase my sense of contribution and pride at home?

  3. What does the upgraded, evolved version of me look and feel like? (Not just what I earn—but how I carry myself, relate to others, and experience success.)

  4. What emotions keep showing up (like guilt, defensiveness, or frustration)? What might each one be trying to tell me?

Optional Micro-Practices

Between sessions, you might try one of these:

  • Say no to one thing you’re tolerating.

  • Block a single hour for guilt-free rest.

  • Ask: "What would change if I gave myself credit today?"